There are certain things in life people say we need closure on.
Today is the day my step-father of the past 10 years moves out. I don’t know how he could just leave all of that behind, 10 whole years, but it appears rather easy for him. That’s what scares me the most, is that nobody seems to have any feelings. Everyone just seems cold about this entire thing, and I need to be home today for the “closure” thing.
We also need closure when our loved ones die. That’s kind of the idea behind a funeral. To honor them, cherish them, remember them, and to get closure and move on. Closure and moving on are two very odd ideas. Nobody ever truly has closure do they? They’re always going to go back and think about that person or that event, and they’ll always wish they could either have them with them, or do it differently.
Same thing with moving on. Nobody ever truly moves on. Same as closure. But everything that we need closure on, or to move on from, stems from fear. We have a fear of our loved ones dying, and when they do, we need closure and to move on in order to “accept and cope” with the loss. Same with certain events. They scarred us so badly that we just need to forget them and want closure so that we can move on and forget about those fears.
But what about our biggest fear? Most people’s biggest fear is Death. Public Speaking amazingly is #1 biggest fear, but Death ranks in as #2, don’t ask me. So with our closure and moving on being stemmed from our fears, how do we get closure and move on after WE OURSELVES die?
Sometimes I think I just need closure on closure.
But then I’d have to move on, and that’s not been proven to be possible.
m@rk
